I’m guessing you are here because you want more out of life. It might seem like something’s missing, but you can’t put your finger on exactly what that might be. You think you could be happier, you’re just not quite sure how. You feel stuck. At times you feel overwhelmed, irritable, numb or even bored. You might even feel a little lost. Life has started to feel empty. You are ready for a change, but you don’t know what to change. Or you know what you want to change, but you don’t know how to get there. You feel stuck.
You aren’t alone.
Maybe you’ve been feeling this way for awhile, or maybe this feeling surfaced when you were home isolating during the coronavirus pandemic.
Many of us have known for some time that we aren’t where we had hoped we would be at this point in our lives. Being stuck at home woke many of us up. We realized that life is short and that it’s not too late.
So here’s the good news: there is hope.
You can change your life. You can find more meaning. You can feel more peace. You can have better relationships. You can look better. You can feel better.
Life can get better.
But it’s really hard to do it alone. Asking for help is the first step.
Who am I and how can I help?
I live and breathe self-improvement. I’ve spent years figuring this stuff out for myself personally, and I’ve helped many others do the work too.
My specialties include helping people overcome perfectionism, identify and heal shame, stop people pleasing, build resilience, and live authentically. My passion is helping others create lives full of meaning, purpose, and passion. I believe that finding your voice and becoming empowered has the capacity to shift everything. If you truly commit to this process, by doing this work, you will become empowered and you will find your voice. Once you find your voice and learn to articulate your needs and wants, you stand up for yourself and create the life you want. Other people start to respect you. You no longer give your power away. You don’t feel so scared all the time and learn to walk through life with a sense of confidence and a feeling of joy. Trust me, it feels way better than walking around with fear and resentment expecting perfection.
I’ve helped people change their lives since 2005, when I became a licensed psychotherapist after earning a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from Catholic University in Washington, DC. Since then I’ve worked with countless individuals, couples, and groups in various capacities, as an educator, psychotherapist, and coach.
Today I identify as a Life Coach.
Over the course of my career I’ve realized that my beliefs and style fits best with the coaching model, rather than traditional psychotherapists. Psychotherapists are forced to diagnose clients with mental health disorders in order to bill for services through health insurance. They often view patients as “sick”. Needing medicine. Having a disorder.
I don’t look at people as sick or disordered. I look at people as unique individuals who struggle with challenges. Rather than doing therapy for years with someone focusing on past hurt and pain and trauma, I prefer helping people move forward, creating goals and looking at resistance and what is getting in the way.
As a life coach, I’m able to keep our work completely confidential. I don’t have to disclose anything to anyone and am not restricted by the same constraints placed on psychotherapists.
The foundation of my work is the unique relationship I build with each client. I deeply respect and value each person who works with me and I consider it an honor and a privilege to share in each client’s journey. I value the confidence and trust of my clients above all.
Our work together begins as we build a relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
I want to know your story. I want you to feel heard. I want you to feel safe. I want you to be honest. I want you to take risks. As I often say, I don’t use a cookie cutter approach to this process. Everyone is different, and each session may look a little different. We might meet in person, virtually on-line, by phone, in my office, in your office, or while walking together.
In our first session, I’ll get an idea of your goals and what’s important to you, and we will create a plan.
While some coaches and therapists operate with a “blank slate” approach where you know very little about them, I am typically more open. While it’s not about me, I also believe there is value in sharing and disclosing some of my story occasionally when I believe it will be helpful and will support your process. I’ve done this work for myself and I know how hard it is. I practice what I preach and I live this work. I have been in your shoes and fought like hell to get where I am today, and that resulted in a deep respect for the depth and power of therapy. I’m not perfect. I believe that each coach and therapist should have a good coach and/or a therapist, and I see mine each week. This work has changed my life and it can change yours as well.
I believe that you know what you need better than I do. We will create ground rules and goals and shape this work together. You will have a say in what happens in each session. I encourage each client to take ownership of the process, and I am there, every step of the way.
This work is NOT always easy or fun, but it’s usually far less painful than most people expect. There will likely be tears. You will probably get frustrated with yourself and with me. Repeatedly. You will resist the process and you will dread it at times. It will feel messy sometimes. It might feel like an investment of time, money, and energy that you can’t afford. It might take longer than you are hoping and the results might surprise you.
I promise you that it will be worth it.
If you give 100% to this process and stick with it, you will change your life. You will feel genuinely heard and seen and understood for what quite possibly might be the first time in your life so far. You will begin to feel a little compassion for yourself and for your story. You will see patterns and will start to understand how everything fits together. Other people in your life will notice changes in you. You’ll walk taller and feel stronger. And one day, you will know that all of the work mattered and that it was worth it. This happens when you no longer want to be perfect because you know that you are enough.
Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call (402) 595-8368 to learn more.