I’m guessing you are here because you want more out of life. It might seem like something’s missing, but you can’t put your finger on exactly what that might be. You think you could be happier, you’re just not quite sure how. You feel stuck. At times you feel anxious or depressed or overwhelmed or even bored. You might even feel a little lost. Life has started to feel empty. You are ready for a change.
You aren’t alone.
An astonishing number of us have realized that we aren’t where we had hoped we would be at this point in our lives.
It just doesn’t seem fair! You followed all the rules and you did everything “right”, and yet you continually feel let down and disappointed. It feels like life is passing you by. Adulting is just not what you expected. You’d rate your current life a “C-” but you are putting in “A” level effort. You wonder what you’re doing wrong. Everyone else seems to be happy, and yet you often feel overwhelmed, unfulfilled, underappreciated, quietly resentful, numb and tired. You might wonder if you just aren’t good enough, or begin to fear that you don’t deserve to be happy. When is it going to be your turn? When does life get easier?
These days, there is enormous and unreasonable pressure to be perfect. We feel expected to be perfect parents, spouses, partners, employees, family members, caregivers, classroom volunteers, club members, fundraisers, sports fans, churchgoers, volunteers, citizens, voters, neighbors, people. We need to have perfect children who attend perfect schools, and perfect dogs, cars, houses, kitchens, dinners, electronics, hair, bodies, health, clothes, boats, and vacations. I mean, Facebook seems to show that everyone else is perfect, right?
You feel stuck. Like many of us, you might have a belief that you should be able to do it all, and also, that you should be able to figure this all out on your own. This should be easy, right? Nobody else seems to feel this way, or at least no one else seems to talk about it. You just need to buckle down and try harder. Work more hours. Buy more stuff. Look more perfect. Above all else, whatever you do, you should definitely NOT ever talk about it or ask for help.
Asking for help is hard. It feels like admitting defeat. It is way easier to pretend that everything is fine and to escape with pizza and ice cream and shopping and gambling and wine and porn and Facebook and Netflix. It was for me, anyway.
I hate to tell you this, but nobody can do it on their own. We all need help. Even therapists.
So here’s the good news: there is hope. It doesn’t have to be this way. If anything you just read sounds familiar, you are in the right place. I’m glad you’re here, and I’d love to work with you. You don’t have to live like this anymore.
Therapy and coaching provide a safe, structured, and supportive space where you can answer these questions, get real about this stuff , and create a meaningful life where you feel happier and more fulfilled. You get to be your best.
Asking for help and scheduling your first session is your first step to this better life.
I know just how scary this whole asking for help thing can be as I’ve gone through the process myself. Embarking on this journey is scary and overwhelming and sometimes even embarrassing, and it’s worth it. This work truly has the power to change your life in ways you never knew were even possible. It happened for me, and I’ve seen it happen for many others. It can also work for you.
My Training and Specialities
I am the owner of Omaha Psychotherapy. As a licensed psychotherapist, I offer therapy and coaching for individuals, couples, and groups as well as supervision and consultation for students, other clinicians, and organizations. I earned my Master of Social Work (MSW) degree in 2005 from Catholic University in Washington, DC. I am currently licensed as a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW), Licensed Independent Mental Health Provider (LIMHP), and Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP). I have been in private practice in Omaha since 2009 and opened Omaha Psychotherapy in 2015. I am also in training to become a certified Fearless Living Coach.
My specialties include helping people overcome perfectionism, identify and heal shame, build resilience, and live authentically. My passion is helping others create lives full of meaning, purpose, and passion. I believe that finding your voice and becoming empowered has the capacity to shift everything. If you truly commit to this process, by doing this work, you will become empowered and you will find your voice. Once you find your voice and learn to articulate your needs and wants, you stand up for yourself and create the life you want. Other people start to respect you. You no longer give your power away. You don’t feel so scared all the time and learn to walk through life with a sense of confidence and a feeling of joy. Trust me, it feels way better than walking around with fear and resentment expecting perfection.
I have extensive experience and training in the treatment of depression, anxiety, trauma (including resolving past childhood sexual abuse), grief, passivity, transition, divorce, and concerns related to alcohol.
In addition to this work, my most fulfilling job is as a mom to three kids. I am divorced, sober, and am maintaining a 60 pound weight loss. I am an aspiring author, yogi, and boxer. I am definitely not perfect. I keep showing up and working on myself, and keep learning everything I can about life so I can get better, and in turn help others to get better.
The foundation of my work is the unique relationship I build with each client. I deeply respect and value each person who works with me and I consider it an honor and a privilege to share in each client’s journey. I value the confidence and trust of my clients above all.
Our work together begins as we build a relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
I want to know your story. I want you to feel heard. I want you to feel safe. I want you to be honest. I want you to take risks. As I often say, I don’t use a cookie cutter approach to this process. Everyone is different, and each session may look a little different. We might meet in person, virtually on-line, by phone, in my office, in your office, or while walking together. I use a variety of therapeutic techniques and theoretical approaches including relational-based, psychodynamic, insight-oriented, object relations, cognitive and behavioral, Gestalt, emotional freedom technique, motivational interviewing, coaching, and stages of change theories. I also often teach clients how to use meditation, mindfulness, yoga and other complimentary techniques to enhance the work.
In our first session, I’ll get an idea of your goals and what’s important to you, and we will create a plan.
While some therapists operate with an absolute “blank slate” approach where you know very little about them, I am typically more open. While it’s not about me, I also believe there is value in sharing and disclosing some of my story occasionally when I believe it will be helpful and will support your process. I’ve done this work for myself and I know how hard it is. I practice what I preach and I live this work. I have been in your shoes and fought like hell to get where I am today, and that resulted in a deep respect for the depth and power of therapy. I’m not perfect. I beliee that each therapist should have a therapist, and I see mine each week. This work has changed my life and it can change yours as well.
I believe that you know what you need better than I do. We will create ground rules and goals and shape this work together. You will have a say in what happens in each session. I encourage each client to take ownership of the process, and I am there, every step of the way.
This work is NOT always easy or fun, but it’s usually far less painful than most people expect. There will likely be tears. You will probably get frustrated with yourself and with me. Repeatedly. You will resist the process and you will dread it at times. It will feel messy sometimes. It might feel like an investment of time, money, and energy that you can’t afford. It might take longer than you are hoping and the results might surprise you.
I promise you that it will be worth it.
If you give 100% to this process and stick with it, you will change your life. You will feel genuinely heard and seen and understood for what quite possibly might be the first time in your life so far. You will begin to feel a little compassion for yourself and for your story. You will see patterns and will start to understand how everything fits together. Other people in your life will notice changes in you. You’ll walk taller and feel stronger. And one day, you will know that all of the work mattered and that it was worth it. This happens when you no longer want to be perfect because you know that you are enough.
It’s time. You are ready. Leap.